Getting to Know Your Vulva

The Va-jay-jay. The Vagina. The Vadge (thanks, "Superbad"). All words to describe a body part with an actual name of vulva.
 
Female genitals--those parts we commonly label "private"--are called the vulva.

  • It is a term for the external female genital organs:
  • The mons: the fatty pad above the pubic bone
  • The clitoris: the glans is an area containing thousands of nerve endings and it has a shaft/"legs" that extend down the sides of the vulva inside of the body. It's sole purpose is pleasure
  • The clitoral hood: a fold of skin that protects the clitoris
  • The labia minora and majora: the folds of skin at the sides of the vaginal opening
  • The urethral opening: the entrance into the tube that connects to the bladder
  • The vaginal opening. (It is not the vagina.)
  • The vagina is the internal passageway connecting the external genitals to the cervix and uterus, only the very entrance of which can actually be seen from the outside the female body.

Why don't we know this? In general, because we don't teach girls about their bodies. What boy doesn't know that his penis is called a penis? Even if they use slang, most boys know what their anatomy is called.

How many of us label our daughters' parts correctly? How many of us use slang or, even worse, refer vaguely to "down there?"

You may be saying, "I talk to my daughter about puberty and reproduction, I use the words menstrual cycle, uterus, ovary." But these words have their context inside the body. What about the part that girls can actually see? Or, sure, you may mention the term "pubic hair" but you don't accurately describe where it is located. Pubic hair is not in our vaginas. But that's not what we wind up telling young people.
 
You might be wondering if this is really a big issue and perhaps this is an overreaction. Judge for yourself:

  1. What message does it send to girls when we tell them that they have a body part (a wonderful and important body part) that doesn't need to have a correct name? That  the part is so unimportant that it doesn't need to have any name?
  2. Does this lack of language and inability to talk about vulvas at all make girls feel encouraged to look at their vulvas? To see what their body is all about? Nope. Is it any wonder that many girls and women feel very detached from their vulvas and have trouble talking about them, whether in a medical context or a sexual one?
  3. If we don't have a correct (and universal) language for our bodies, how is it possible to talk about what we want sexually? What feels good? What doesn't feel good?
  4. How are doctors suppose to diagnose or treat us if the term we use to talk about a body part isn't the actual term?
  5. How can we possibly teach children to identify good touch from bad touch when we don't have a universal and correct language?
  6. What's the big deal with the word "vulva?" That is its name.

Perhaps it's because we have trouble discussing anything that has to do with female sexuality. We have a long history of undermining, belittling, or ignoring girls' sexuality.
 
When it comes to the medicalization of female sexuality all bets are off. We have a cosmetic industry devoted to "pretty-ing up" the vulva. Apparently there is only one type of vulva that people find attractive. Thankfully people are challenging this practice but there's a lot left to do.

Let's start at the beginning by acknowledging that the vulva exists. And by telling little girls that they should feel good about their vulvas. Because body image isn't limited to what we weigh on the scale. It also means articulating, acknowledging, and appreciating all of our body parts, even - especially - those "down there."

Hannah Witton and Bing take you through the basic make up of the vulva and vagina.

Source for photo.

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Dr. Logan Levkoff

A recognized expert on sexuality and relationships, Dr. Logan Levkoff frequently appears on television including Good Morning America, The Today Show, The Rachael Ray Show, Oprah, Fox News Channel, and CNN. For over a decade Logan has been teaching groups of all ages and from a variety of backgrounds. Logan is the author of How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex With You and Third Base Ain't What it Used to Be. Find out more on LoganLevkoff.com, follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

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